The Law of Connection Part 20
Paul Connects-Philemon 4-22
In the very personal letter of Philemon, Paul asks his friend to do something very difficult: graciously receive back a runaway slave. Before he confronts Philemon, Paul connects by walking through the following stages of conflict management:
The compliment stage (vv. 4-7)
Paul affirmed Philemon, and reminded him of his love. Good leaders begin confrontation with affirmation. They focus on positive qualities.
The compromise stage (vv. 8-13)
Before his appeal, Paul concedes the present status of the slave, Onesimus. Good leaders own some responsibility for the conflict and recognize their differences.
The choice stage (v. 14)