Parenting

Seasons of Parenting

Posted 34 minutes ago

Analyzing your interaction with your kids 

God gives specific instructions on “the way” that parents should interact with and teach their children. In fact, 2 Timothy 3:16 says: 

“All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” [NJKV] 

The parenting self-test required honest self-examination when it asked about what percentage of your time do you spend with your children on doctrine (teaching the word of God), reproof (e.g. criticism, scolding, lecturing, etc.), correction, and instruction in righteousness (e.g. living by Biblical Principles). 

If very little of your time is spent on teaching the word of God and training your children on how to live according to God’s plan and the majority of the time is spent on scolding and punishing, then it may be time to make some adjustments in the way you are parenting. 

God has given us the blueprint for building strong relationships with our children and helping them grow spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially. The following scriptures are just a few of the many helpful tips from the Bible on how to raise our children:   

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 (NKJV) 

Seasons Of Parenting

Posted 6 days ago

Take a Parenting Self-Test

This month we will take a closer look at “the way…” we parent and train/teach our children by starting with the word of God. Proverbs 22:6 is a very familiar Bible verse that people often quote without understanding the full meaning. A lot of parents focus on the part about training a child but forget about the part that says, “in the way [he or she] should go”.

Have you ever thought about the way you parent your children who each have different personalities, interests, and abilities? Some additional questions to think about are:

·         How do you interact with your kids?

Seasons Of Parenting

Posted 1 week ago

This week we will focus on another gift that anyone will appreciate, the gift of listening!

Not only did God gives an obvious hint about the importance of listening vs. talking by creating us with two ears and one mouth but God gave us clear instructions in the Bible about how we should communicate:

"...be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." [James 1:19 KJV]

While we all can recognize that healthy communication is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship, our actions seem to reveal that we have things backwards. 

We are often quick tempered, attempt to talk over or louder than others, especially when we are angry, and when others are talking, we are not listening because we are too busy thinking about what we want to say next.

We simply overlook the fact that the effective communication is a respectful, attentive, two-way interaction. 

Seasons Of Parenting

Posted 3 weeks ago

Gifts That Last a Lifetime

Although God our heavenly Father knows how to give good gifts to His children (Matthew 7:11 ). We earthly parents struggle at times, especially, this time of the year.
 

During this holiday season parents are often busy trying to find and give their children the perfect gift. Often kids break or lose interest in the gifts before the next holiday season. But parents can give their kids gifts that their kids will not only appreciate but those gifts can last a lifetime. 
 

Some gift ideas that can make an impact that last a lifetime are intangible gifts such as:

 · Quality Time (Give a gift certificate for one hour a week doing an activity your child enjoys for a year)

Seasons Of Parenting

Posted 4 weeks ago

Season: Autumn 17 and onwards

Autumn marks the end of a cycle. It’s been great…The grass isn’t growing as fast anymore. The trees are starting to turn [gold and] brown…Leaves are falling, and fall means leaving. As a parent, you don’t know what [your child] will face but you hope that you’ve prepared [your child]. Autumn is time of transition from the faith of their parents to their own faith…It’s what’s left when the winds [of life] start to blow…Sickness and setbacks may stalk them; doubts and disappointments may dog them; failure and faltering may follow them… [pp. 23-24]

Prescription

[But] claim your promise from One who stays with them when they leave you. [p. 24]

Words of Wisdom (Luke 10:25-28, Ephesians 4:1-32, 5:2, 6:10-20,23-24, John 1:1-3, 10-13, Romans 8:31-38)

Seasons Of Parenting

Posted 1 month ago

Season: Summer 11-16                                                              

Summer—when it’s hot—very hot…It’s the time that you are in the most danger of losing your child [or your mind]. Summer is a time of turmoil...A time when so many important decisions must be made. This is the time when the real self emerges; when we need to watch the child like hawks. It is our responsibility to get into our child’s world…This is a time when [your child] may decide to follow their faith. The mind can now deal with the concrete and abstract. [p. 22]

The supreme question is the why question. It may appear obvious to you. [Your children] may appear to understand everything when [they] were younger, but [during the summer years they are] questioning. Let [them]…Love [them]. There’s a struggle because a new birth is taking place. This is pregnancy time again, but it’s not a child that is coming; an adult is about to be formed. There is pain. [p. 22]

Prescription

Seasons Of Parenting

Posted 1 month ago

Season: Spring 7-10

Imagination gives way to the concrete and tangible. What is real is now what is being experienced. [Children ages 7-10] want proof. They want evidence…Literalism and legalism enter the picture (e.g. they tell you when you’re speeding or not wearing a seatbelt, they may like to bargain—I’ll do this if you do that. [p.21]

Prescription

Beware of your child becoming selfish and manipulative. Teach and model that it is still better to give than to receive. Be consistent. Be what you claim to be. [p.21]

Seasons of Parenting

Posted 1 month ago

Season: Winter Ages 0-6

For the first few years of life, children explore the world through their senses (e.g. they put objects in their mouth, bang things together, climb, crawl, walk, watch you and copy your behavior). They notice everything, but they don’t recognize danger. They may even act like they don’t need you, but they do. Welcome to parenthood! [p. 20]

The child’s imagination is being developed which is one reason you buy expensive toys and they spend more time playing with the box than the toy. [p. 20]

Prescription

You are your child’s superhero…don’t let her down. [p. 20]